by Massachusetts Justice of the Peace & Notary Public Carol J. Merletti
About Carol J. Merletti
My husband, Ronald, and I, renewed our wedding vows to celebrate our 20th year wedding anniversary on March 18,
2007. Our only son, Nick, and I, gave Ron (and Dad) a surprise 60th birthday party. At his party, I ask my husband to
remarry me. Nick acted as his dad's best man and handed him a new wedding ring to replace his original ring that
had been recently stolen at his gym. It was a moment that our family will never, ever forget. (Thankfully my husband
answered "YES" to my proposal!!! He cried, but I took that as a sign that he really meant yes and not because he
couldn't say no with a 150 people there to witness the event!!!) The fact that our son took part in our marrying each
other again for a second time is something that we will never forget. (NOTE: Three of the photos above are photos
from our original wedding.)
I am an Executive and Private Assistant to a terrific boss, Mark T. Thomas, who is my dear friend, mentor, and a
founder of two companies, Monitor Company Group and Monitor Clipper Partners, LLP. On July 25th, 2008, I
celebrated my 20th year anniversary of working for Mark! I have no regrets! I love my job! In 1985 I became a
Notary Public and to date, continue to perform this community service. Ron and I have been actively involved in Nick’
s life since his arrival in this world. Ron served as a Boy Scout Den Leader for two years and Cub Master for four
years, while I served as a Den Leader for four years. I previously sat on several educational committees, such as a
secretary of an elementary school council, PTO Secretary, Co-Chairwoman of a school yearbook for three years and
family school directory. I also sat on a committee for the American Cancer Society “Relay for Life” for the Malden,
Massachusetts district. However, the most precious to me, and proudest community service that I have participated
in to date, was the education for children with learning disabilities. Ron and I, along with another couple, encouraged
our children’s school to participate in the Massachusetts Association of Special Education Parent Advisory Council.
Education is the one thing that I hold dear to my heart. As one of twelve children, college was not an option for me. I
had to work my way towards being granted this privilege. Which I did – by paying my own way to evening classes at
Harvard University and Fisher Junior College. Children with learning disabilities do not always have this opportunity.
Someone needs to help guide them this way, and the first step to do this, is to educate parents of their legal rights
when they are a parent of a child with a learning disability. Every child deserves the opportunity to a decent
education regardless of a learning disability. That was the mission for Ron and I – to educate the parents of their
legal rights. While it is not a subject that any school district wants to deal with, and it was emotionally draining for Ron
and I, as well as for the parents, I believe that we contributed to helping a lot of kids with learning disabilities, and I will
always proudly say that I was part of their accomplishments.
In addition to the above, I am an avid collector of classic films from the eras of 1930 to 1950. There is nothing that I
enjoy more on my down time, when I have some down time, is to sit back and watch old films with my husband. It is my
goal to collect every film that was ever made by some of the most well known Hollywood stars, I simply cannot see
enough movies starring Cary Grant, Jimmy Stewart, and Katherine Hepburn! While I love all of the old actors and old
films, those three are my favorite classic movie stars. I always tell my husband that if I had not married him, then my
dream husband would be Cary Grant first, and then Jimmy Stewart! As a matter of fact, the theme for our wedding
renewal above was a classic theme. I purchased an old vintage dress for the occasion.
Now that my son is eighteen, has graduated from high school, and is going off to college, I have come to the
realization that since I can no longer be involved with his education, I am at a loss. I love being involved and
interacting with people, which is one of the reasons that I became a Justice of the Peace.
In 1987, Ron and I were married by a Justice of the Peace. We had a very large wedding, in a lovely outdoor garden
at a function hall. Our entire wedding party consisted of my wearing a wedding gown, my husband in a tux, best man,
maid of honor, bride’s maids, ushers, etc. I was a nervous bride, as we had not had a rehearsal since we were not
getting married in a church. On the final day, I had no idea what to expect. Our Justice of the Peace set our minds at
ease. He was a very kind, caring, and knowledgeable person who ran the whole ceremony flawlessly. It was a
perfect day. As a matter of fact, soon after that, the same Justice of the Peace married my Mom and late Stepfather,
as well as my Sister, Cathy, and her Husband, Robert. Those memories stayed with me through the years, which is
why I decided to become a Justice of the Peace as well. I wanted to provide to other couples that same wonderful
experience that Ron and I, as well as my family, felt when we were married.
2007. Our only son, Nick, and I, gave Ron (and Dad) a surprise 60th birthday party. At his party, I ask my husband to
remarry me. Nick acted as his dad's best man and handed him a new wedding ring to replace his original ring that
had been recently stolen at his gym. It was a moment that our family will never, ever forget. (Thankfully my husband
answered "YES" to my proposal!!! He cried, but I took that as a sign that he really meant yes and not because he
couldn't say no with a 150 people there to witness the event!!!) The fact that our son took part in our marrying each
other again for a second time is something that we will never forget. (NOTE: Three of the photos above are photos
from our original wedding.)
I am an Executive and Private Assistant to a terrific boss, Mark T. Thomas, who is my dear friend, mentor, and a
founder of two companies, Monitor Company Group and Monitor Clipper Partners, LLP. On July 25th, 2008, I
celebrated my 20th year anniversary of working for Mark! I have no regrets! I love my job! In 1985 I became a
Notary Public and to date, continue to perform this community service. Ron and I have been actively involved in Nick’
s life since his arrival in this world. Ron served as a Boy Scout Den Leader for two years and Cub Master for four
years, while I served as a Den Leader for four years. I previously sat on several educational committees, such as a
secretary of an elementary school council, PTO Secretary, Co-Chairwoman of a school yearbook for three years and
family school directory. I also sat on a committee for the American Cancer Society “Relay for Life” for the Malden,
Massachusetts district. However, the most precious to me, and proudest community service that I have participated
in to date, was the education for children with learning disabilities. Ron and I, along with another couple, encouraged
our children’s school to participate in the Massachusetts Association of Special Education Parent Advisory Council.
Education is the one thing that I hold dear to my heart. As one of twelve children, college was not an option for me. I
had to work my way towards being granted this privilege. Which I did – by paying my own way to evening classes at
Harvard University and Fisher Junior College. Children with learning disabilities do not always have this opportunity.
Someone needs to help guide them this way, and the first step to do this, is to educate parents of their legal rights
when they are a parent of a child with a learning disability. Every child deserves the opportunity to a decent
education regardless of a learning disability. That was the mission for Ron and I – to educate the parents of their
legal rights. While it is not a subject that any school district wants to deal with, and it was emotionally draining for Ron
and I, as well as for the parents, I believe that we contributed to helping a lot of kids with learning disabilities, and I will
always proudly say that I was part of their accomplishments.
In addition to the above, I am an avid collector of classic films from the eras of 1930 to 1950. There is nothing that I
enjoy more on my down time, when I have some down time, is to sit back and watch old films with my husband. It is my
goal to collect every film that was ever made by some of the most well known Hollywood stars, I simply cannot see
enough movies starring Cary Grant, Jimmy Stewart, and Katherine Hepburn! While I love all of the old actors and old
films, those three are my favorite classic movie stars. I always tell my husband that if I had not married him, then my
dream husband would be Cary Grant first, and then Jimmy Stewart! As a matter of fact, the theme for our wedding
renewal above was a classic theme. I purchased an old vintage dress for the occasion.
Now that my son is eighteen, has graduated from high school, and is going off to college, I have come to the
realization that since I can no longer be involved with his education, I am at a loss. I love being involved and
interacting with people, which is one of the reasons that I became a Justice of the Peace.
In 1987, Ron and I were married by a Justice of the Peace. We had a very large wedding, in a lovely outdoor garden
at a function hall. Our entire wedding party consisted of my wearing a wedding gown, my husband in a tux, best man,
maid of honor, bride’s maids, ushers, etc. I was a nervous bride, as we had not had a rehearsal since we were not
getting married in a church. On the final day, I had no idea what to expect. Our Justice of the Peace set our minds at
ease. He was a very kind, caring, and knowledgeable person who ran the whole ceremony flawlessly. It was a
perfect day. As a matter of fact, soon after that, the same Justice of the Peace married my Mom and late Stepfather,
as well as my Sister, Cathy, and her Husband, Robert. Those memories stayed with me through the years, which is
why I decided to become a Justice of the Peace as well. I wanted to provide to other couples that same wonderful
experience that Ron and I, as well as my family, felt when we were married.
Therefore, I pursued my interest of becoming a Justice of the Peace, and I am happy to say that I did. I am meeting
so many wonderful and interesting people. It is a new experience each time I solemnize a marriage. I thoroughly
enjoy my part in contributing to a couple’s happiness and commitment to one another.
I WELCOME EVERYONE! I will always happily perform all ceremonies (if of course, I am available). It does not
matter what your religion or culture is -- it does not matter if it is a ceremony for a same sex couple -- it does not
matter if you want your pets to take part in your ceremony -- it does not matter how different, or strange, you want
your ceremony to be (Well, of course, there are limits!). But I must share with you that my long awaited wish finally
came true in September of 2007 -- I officiated my first Fenway Park wedding on the Green Monster during the
seventh-inning stretch at that!!! AND THE BEST PART -- THE COUPLE WAS FROM NEW YORK!!! Since then, it has
been non-stop with Fenway Park weddings, and they keep coming. So should anyone need the contact person's
name and number at Fenway, please feel free to contact me at 781-322-8857 and I will be happy to provide you with
this information.
I am a huge Red Sox Fan! So much so, that I actually convinced myself that I would receive a call from Ben Affleck
and Jennifer Garner to officiate over their wedding ceremony, since Ben is from Massachusetts, and he is a huge
Red Sox fan, but unfortunately, I must have missed that call! (SO COME ON RED SOX FANS, DOESN'T ANYONE
WANT TO GET MARRIED AT FENWAY???) Having said that, I am open and happy to help anyone who wishes to
be married. I encourage you to be creative with your ceremony! I encourage you to help me write your vows to
make them personal to fit YOUR STYLE. However -- please do not ask me to dress like Elvis! I don't think that a five
foot, 100 pound female can help you with this. I am happy to do the research for you, but I would definitely not make
a good Elvis! (I know that this sounds weird, but I did indeed receive a call with this request!)
The other request that I have is, since we live in New England, and our weather is always unpredictable, that you
always have a back-up plan for an out-door ceremony. Recently I performed a ceremony when it began to rain the
minute the ceremony began. This wedding party looked gorgeous and they spent a whole day getting ready for this
special day, but unfortunately the weather was not co-operating. I saw the face on the bride as I was officiating over
her ceremony. She was so upset. While I continued to read their wedding vows, I suddenly notice that their vows
were being washed away! As it is impossible for me to remember vows by heart, as vows for each ceremony that I
perform are different, I stood there watching the ink fade. My first thought was, please can someone hold an
umbrella over the head of this bride and groom and over my head? While I cannot say this while I am performing a
ceremony, it was obvious on my face. Suddenly, I saw this umbrella come over my head from behind. Of course, I
could not turn around, but when we completed this ceremony, I found this -- what I now call the "Perfect Gentleman"
-- standing over me with the umbrella! His name is Sean. Sean, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are
indeed a "Perfect Gentleman"! Thank you for saving the day!
So please feel free to call me regardless of how small or large, formal or informal your wedding ceremony may be.
so many wonderful and interesting people. It is a new experience each time I solemnize a marriage. I thoroughly
enjoy my part in contributing to a couple’s happiness and commitment to one another.
I WELCOME EVERYONE! I will always happily perform all ceremonies (if of course, I am available). It does not
matter what your religion or culture is -- it does not matter if it is a ceremony for a same sex couple -- it does not
matter if you want your pets to take part in your ceremony -- it does not matter how different, or strange, you want
your ceremony to be (Well, of course, there are limits!). But I must share with you that my long awaited wish finally
came true in September of 2007 -- I officiated my first Fenway Park wedding on the Green Monster during the
seventh-inning stretch at that!!! AND THE BEST PART -- THE COUPLE WAS FROM NEW YORK!!! Since then, it has
been non-stop with Fenway Park weddings, and they keep coming. So should anyone need the contact person's
name and number at Fenway, please feel free to contact me at 781-322-8857 and I will be happy to provide you with
this information.
I am a huge Red Sox Fan! So much so, that I actually convinced myself that I would receive a call from Ben Affleck
and Jennifer Garner to officiate over their wedding ceremony, since Ben is from Massachusetts, and he is a huge
Red Sox fan, but unfortunately, I must have missed that call! (SO COME ON RED SOX FANS, DOESN'T ANYONE
WANT TO GET MARRIED AT FENWAY???) Having said that, I am open and happy to help anyone who wishes to
be married. I encourage you to be creative with your ceremony! I encourage you to help me write your vows to
make them personal to fit YOUR STYLE. However -- please do not ask me to dress like Elvis! I don't think that a five
foot, 100 pound female can help you with this. I am happy to do the research for you, but I would definitely not make
a good Elvis! (I know that this sounds weird, but I did indeed receive a call with this request!)
The other request that I have is, since we live in New England, and our weather is always unpredictable, that you
always have a back-up plan for an out-door ceremony. Recently I performed a ceremony when it began to rain the
minute the ceremony began. This wedding party looked gorgeous and they spent a whole day getting ready for this
special day, but unfortunately the weather was not co-operating. I saw the face on the bride as I was officiating over
her ceremony. She was so upset. While I continued to read their wedding vows, I suddenly notice that their vows
were being washed away! As it is impossible for me to remember vows by heart, as vows for each ceremony that I
perform are different, I stood there watching the ink fade. My first thought was, please can someone hold an
umbrella over the head of this bride and groom and over my head? While I cannot say this while I am performing a
ceremony, it was obvious on my face. Suddenly, I saw this umbrella come over my head from behind. Of course, I
could not turn around, but when we completed this ceremony, I found this -- what I now call the "Perfect Gentleman"
-- standing over me with the umbrella! His name is Sean. Sean, thank you from the bottom of my heart. You are
indeed a "Perfect Gentleman"! Thank you for saving the day!
So please feel free to call me regardless of how small or large, formal or informal your wedding ceremony may be.
ETIQUETTE
INVITING YOUR OFFICIANT TO YOUR CEREMONY: While etiquette dictates that an officiant should be an invited
guest to your reception, I personally disagree. If, your officiant is a family priest, or, a personal friend, that is a
different story. You do not know me, nor do I know your guests, which would put all of us in an uncomfortable
situation. Therefore, I disagree with proper etiquette in this case. I know only too well what the cost of weddings are,
and I would not want you to spend money on a person that you do not know. My life is very complicated as well. I am
extremely devoted to my family, and to my boss 24/7. Having said that, being an officiant is not my primary job. I love
officiating for all weddings, but I also do not want to see a couple who is struggling to pay for a wedding ceremony
feel as if they need to invite me as a guest to their wedding reception. This is simply not necessary. And I honestly
appreciate it if you did not. I hope that I do not appear as being rude for saying this, but I am only being honest.
GRATUITIES / TIPPING YOUR OFFICIANT: I am often asked the question if I should be tipped for my services. My
answer to them is "that is up to you". I am uncomfortable with answering this question. There is no correct answer
for this question. This is basically based upon what you believe your officiant is worth, as well as, what you believe,
is the right thing to do. However, keeping in mind that your officiant is the person who is providing you with a service
for the most important part of your wedding day -- your wedding vows -- tips / gratuities are always appreciated.
This lets your officiant know what you thought about their services, only because your officiant's fee -- which is
regulated by Massachusetts law -- is minor and very small compared to what you are paying to your other wedding
vendors.
INVITING YOUR OFFICIANT TO YOUR CEREMONY: While etiquette dictates that an officiant should be an invited
guest to your reception, I personally disagree. If, your officiant is a family priest, or, a personal friend, that is a
different story. You do not know me, nor do I know your guests, which would put all of us in an uncomfortable
situation. Therefore, I disagree with proper etiquette in this case. I know only too well what the cost of weddings are,
and I would not want you to spend money on a person that you do not know. My life is very complicated as well. I am
extremely devoted to my family, and to my boss 24/7. Having said that, being an officiant is not my primary job. I love
officiating for all weddings, but I also do not want to see a couple who is struggling to pay for a wedding ceremony
feel as if they need to invite me as a guest to their wedding reception. This is simply not necessary. And I honestly
appreciate it if you did not. I hope that I do not appear as being rude for saying this, but I am only being honest.
GRATUITIES / TIPPING YOUR OFFICIANT: I am often asked the question if I should be tipped for my services. My
answer to them is "that is up to you". I am uncomfortable with answering this question. There is no correct answer
for this question. This is basically based upon what you believe your officiant is worth, as well as, what you believe,
is the right thing to do. However, keeping in mind that your officiant is the person who is providing you with a service
for the most important part of your wedding day -- your wedding vows -- tips / gratuities are always appreciated.
This lets your officiant know what you thought about their services, only because your officiant's fee -- which is
regulated by Massachusetts law -- is minor and very small compared to what you are paying to your other wedding
vendors.
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